If you are a new parent or it’s been awhile since you have heard crying, it’s understandable that a baby’s crying can be rattling. But you may be wondering, “why does my baby’s crying give me anxiety?”
Babies cry for many reasons trying to communicate what they need. It takes time to get familiar with what each fuss may mean.
We get the hang of it eventually, it’s a trial and error.
I remember being a new mom and feeling overwhelmed by all that needed to be tended to by such a tiny little creature.
My first born had a time where he cried when I took him out in the car. What?!? There were times where I was beside myself. I had always heard that taking them for a drive was supposed to calm them. Goes to show everyone is different.
Trial and error was exactly what we did, and over time, we got our groove.
But there were many days in the first year that I felt the anxiety. Sadly, I didn’t understand at that time what I was feeling or what to do.
I knew that something wasn’t right for me, but I couldn’t figure out what it was and how to fix it. These were the days before Pinterest!
Hormones can really do a number on a mom. The nurse line that I called seemed to had no answers either. So glad this has all changed for moms today.
I didn’t have tapping at that time to help me with my anxiety and rollercoaster of hormones. I did pray and that was comforting. I really could have used tapping to help with the stress and disrupt my thoughts.
Now that I know how useful it is, I want to share with all moms, shouting it from the rooftops!
Please make sure if you are feeling anxiety and stress, and it feels overwhelming, reach out to someone. You don’t have to do this alone. A crying baby can intensify the feeling for sure.
It’s important that you get the support you need. EFT can be a wonderful complimentary tool!
Tools For You and Baby
- Rest every time you can
- Know who you can call if you need a break
- Put good support in place with friends and family
- Have a relaxation routine
- Tap and/or prayer time
- Talk to doctor
- Take for walk outside in calming nature
- Put on soothing music
- Gentle baby massage
- Calming movement like a ride in the stroller, rocking chair, drive in car
- Check they are comfortable and not in pain
- Warm bath
The script below will help when you feel your anxiety is rising from the baby’s crying.
“Anxiety From Crying Baby” TAPPING SCRIPT
This script can help to gain peace when you feel your anxiety rising.
Tap as soon as you feel your temperature rising, shaky, or have the racing thoughts. (Or whatever your symptoms are for anxiety).
This tool can take you from stress to peace in a short period of time.
Before you begin tapping, rate your anxiety on a scale of 0-10. Zero means you aren’t feeling anything and neutral about the situation, and 10 being you feel like you could have a panic attack. What is your number?
Karate Chop: (Set-up Statement)
- Even though my baby’s crying is frustrating me and I don’t know what to do, I deeply love and accept myself.
- Even though I feel anxious and overwhelmed by all the crying, I deeply love and accept myself.
- Even though I feel like I am going to explode if I have to listen to anymore crying, I love and accept who I am right now.
This is a horrible feeling not wanting to hear the crying.
Side of Eye:
I feel guilty that I can’t handle this or I don’t know what to do.
I had no idea how hard this was going to be dealing with crying like this.
I feel so helpless, nothing I do seems to help my baby.
I wish I knew how to help my baby stop crying . . . I feel like crying!
I didn’t know it was going to be this hard.
The sound of crying is wearing on me and my anxiety is rising.
Top of Head:
I never thought it would be like this.
I need to feel calmer and find peace.
Side of Eye:
It’s not helping the situation that I feel horrible and wanting to cry.
I feel embarrassed to reach out and ask for help.
I should know how to comfort my child, but it’s harder than I thought.
Who could I talk to that would understand? Who do I trust to help me?
What if it was as simple as reaching out to someone and asking them for an hour of help?
What if they don’t want to help?
Top of head:
I don’t know what they are thinking, I don’t have the time to guess.
If I don’t reach out for help or do something different nothing is going to change.
Side of Eye:
I know people have offered for me to call them for help, I guess this is what they mean.
I want to believe that reaching out doesn’t mean I am a bed mom or lazy.
I am acknowledging that I need extra support. It would feel so good to know that someone has my back.
I feel empowered knowing that I am taking care of my baby and myself. Asking for help may not be in the way I imagined myself as a new mom, but maybe this is what many moms do and they just don’t talk about it.
I am believing that I will know how to handle my baby’s crying and my anxiety soon, like using tapping and asking for my family’s help.
I am feeling relieved that I have a plan. I don’t have to do this alone. Maybe my parents and friends are glad I ask them for help, they can be with the baby.
Top of Head:
I am learning about me and how to take care of myself, how to connect with my baby, and building relationships. What if this situation is a gift. What if my baby’s crying never wore on me? I wouldn’t have learned about my anxiety, found ideas to comfort me, and even more importantly building relationships with the people around, especially my baby. I am so grateful.
Take a deep breath.
After doing the tapping what are your thoughts?
How do you feel about hearing crying? Does your anxiety come up thinking about it? Or does your anxiety seem to not feel as strong?
What is your number on the scale of 0-10? Did it go down or do you still feel anxious thinking about the crying ? If you are at a 3 or higher, consider doing more rounds of tapping.
You can change the wording and make it more personal to your situation. Be consistent with tapping and you will see and FEEL the changes.
Tap before your anxiety gets high. Use the SUDS scale (0-10) to learn to read your body and know when you need to be proactive.
Being aware of your body and your thoughts, and tapping consistently can change everything . . . . including a crying baby!